Wooba, I totally understand the need to not be married to someone like your H right now. For so many reasons, this really makes sense. And I know that we don't have the full picture of your current situation, so forgive me pushing some of these hard questions, but I have a few thoughts:
1. At this point, you don't really have a M. Is a piece of paper really worth losing financial security over at the moment? No judgement if the answer is yes.
2. I am in a dual-national M and even thought we currently live in my country, the challenges of what D would look like and citizenship and residency for the children is something I think a lot about. Are you protected if you want to take the children back to the US at anytime? Do you live in a country where parental rights and residency may not be as much in your favor as they are in the US? Could your H use your resident country rights against you if things get ugly?
3. It just feels like in your current country, you are backed up against a wall with not much recourse. Perhaps the terms of your agreement are enough to justify moving forward with D without current spousal support or child support. In which case, ignore all of my questions!
What a lot to deal with, but you sound so clear and strong, Wooba!
