I am glad to hear work is going well and you are doing great while working. Throwing ourselves back into a job is a good distraction. The shift of our focus provides excellent time for our inner mind to mull things over and find peace and acceptance. It’s a slow go, but of course like a fine wine it take time and one cannot rush it.
The brief snippets of message you saw is good. It’s gives that inner mind extra time before you actual sit down to read and respond. I want you to realize something - XH has no right to those answers.
Getting your own phone plan, auto insurance, etc... None of his business anymore. Now, if the divorce agreement states timelines and such for completing certain things, fine, assure him it will be done by the deadline. Other than that, he doesn’t control you. You control you.
H may try to manipulate you into selling the house or whatever; don’t worry about his timeline. Live your full life and fit in things as you see fit.
Child support. Maybe he has mentioned it and the preview didn’t show it. You will find out when you read the message in their entirety. If he is playing games with child support, that is something you will need to address. There are options available for enforcement if things come to that. You don’t need to play along with whatever XH might or might not be trying - nefarious or not. It’s pretty simple and straight forward to have an automatic monthly transfer from his account to your’s.
I’m sorry sleep is currently difficult. Besides the lack of sleep not allowing us to function at our best, how we sleep is a good indicator of how we are doing internally / subconsciously. 3-4 hours isn’t great; I’ve been there. This is just a rough patch on the path. (((Can)))
Let us know what XH’s seven message are about. I’m interested in your well-being and all for you getting a full night sleep again.
Take care.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
