What's New Today pt2

[CanBird]

Good Morning Can

I’m sorry for the strain and stress you are under. However, putting off news, bad news or good news, until Wednesday is just delaying you knowing. I think that strategy may create more stress.

Read the messages and wait until Wednesday to respond. It’s the delay in your response that is the key, IMHO. It’s gives you 24-48 hours to compose yourself, to consider what was stated, and to response to whatever H has said; otherwise you are responding on Friday.

You don’t need to rush to read his messages, and I like the idea of doing that when you have some free time and can be more at peace. I would suggest you could read any messages any day after work. Then respond 48 hours later.

Perhaps you are delaying because you expect him to lash out or otherwise blame and give bad news. Expectations, they do affect us. Set them to zero, and deal with what actually happens. You are currently dealing with something that you expect to happen. That is creating a fearful and stressful outlook for yourself.

And if he really needs to contact me he try calling.

I think him calling would not alleviate the stress it would add to it.

Detach. Be indifferent. You can read his messages without being dragged around emotionally. You can consider your response and further actions over the next couple of days. And then you can respond, if needed.

D

Hi DnJ. He txt 2 more times, 7 in total) he says he's at work (could be) and barely any reception.. could be true... I glaced briefly, didnt read full messages. I saw the words "maybe ask your dad to buy the housre or sell the house", "when are you getting your own phone plan? Auto insurance.." "you have income from the rental"... I did not read anything about child support. Again, I haven't read the full content.

I did not sleep. Maybe 3-4 hrs? But I functioned great at work

Whatever happens happens.