i'm back for a check in and update on my stich. The summer had been chugging along and actually flying by.Summer job has been great and working on the house and fun with the boys. Nothing new on paperwork. She still hasn't paid her half of the house and pension appraisal. 3 letter across 3 months have been sent to her atty as a reminder. i have called off my attny to file a motion and just let it sit. 1 it will cost more money and 2 if she wants a divorce she will move on it.
Lately she has been asking to join us at the beach on my day of the weekend, join us for bike rides and 2 weeks ago asked if she could could come camping with me and the boys. I said yes and she did. no questions were asked about sleeping arrangements and I packed only our large family tent. The day we left she texted me at work letting me know her and the boys were at the house already (i'm in the house she across town a bit at her parents) and asked if she could do anything to help pack. I told her she could pack the cooler with stuff bought in the fridge but everything else was ready.
I get home all is good the boys are excited and I go to jump in the shower and she had cleaned the bathroom and straightened up the bedroom. I noted it and thanked her and away we went. We get to the campground and we fall into our normal efficient roles of setting up. After the tent is set up she is in there w/ sleeping bags and stuff and askes if she should set it up as usual and I say sure. Normal is the the boys on one side and us on the other with sleeping bags laid out like a queen bed with sheets not in separate bags. We sleep both nights 1 foot from each other. We have not shared a bed in almost 2 years. There was a little hand holding and she put my hand on her side in the middle of the night.
There was even a couple of hugs and when we got home she helped totally unload all the gear and clean the truck. We finished 2 hours after getting home. There seemed no rush for her to get back to her parents house. That night she commented that it was an awesome weekend and I responded it was.
Beach day yesterday and she comes a bit after me and the boys but before friends and puts her chair right next to mine, not feet away or even a foot. Everyone had a great day. She also asked me if I would go into the city with her and be with her for some testing she needs to get done for her lung issue next Friday
This morning I get a text from her saying that she has fun with me and the boys but just to be clear she just wants to be friends. Yesterday she also brought up going camping again for Labor Day weekend as a 5 day weekend.
I didn't respond to the text this morning and just intend to let it lay. Thoughts? Advice?
2 boys 6 and 8 Together 12 years Married 9 in September Not sure she wants to work on marriage comment July 2018 Living seperately Since April 2019 Papers delivered last September
NJ, any updates?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
