WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Don't Want Divorce (2)

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Hectic week. I still have S5 for 1-2hrs before and 1-2hrs after school even on my "off" weeks, both kids for dinner Wednesday night, coaching S5's soccer team Thursday, and both kids all day Friday...all on my "off" weeks. I'm fortunate to have all the "extra" time with the kids (on top of the 50/50) and wouldn't have it any other way but it does make it stressful at times with work trying to flex around it all.

On top of all that, I met with my attorney on Thursday and had to prepare financial documents. Had a parent/teacher conference for S5 on Friday, and had a consultation with another attorney on Friday afternoon (a 3rd opinion really). They all confirmed the law/state does not care who had the affair, initiated the divorce, or cares for the kids more (so long as the nights are equal), and will not step in to keep OM2 away from kids (as the board said). My attorney and the other consulted attorney said they could send a letter about it and maybe it would scare her off from having him around for now but runs the risk of her doing it even more to flaunt it (i.e., rebellious nature) or fighting harder on finances. It's almost as if the law favors the offending party at the expense of the aggrieved spouse. Totally backwards.

In terms of GAL, Friday night I met up with a buddy for pizza & wings but there wasn't a lot going on Saturday & Sunday so I was a bit sad and lonely. I just tried to stay busy clearing out the garage and basement and dividing up the Christmas decorations.

The preliminary conference for our divorce is scheduled this afternoon with the judge and our attorneys. It's mostly perfunctory; the judge schedules out dates for certain documents....etc. We'll see how it goes...