why is it always hawaii?? i will never ever go there, by choice. It's forever tarnished for me by the secret second honeymoon exh took with OW on our 21st wedding anniversary --- you know the trip, the one he tried to stick me for 1/2 the bill on, because he was "paying my living expenses" --- in our family home, three months after he left us. Yeah. F hawaii. Doesn't exist in my universe.

Petty? Probably, but that's exactly how I feel, all these years later.

I get it G, I really do -- this isn't what you signed up for when you got married and had your baby girl. Me neither. But it's what we have, so we can either deal or not ... our choice. For me, I allow myself a certain amount of grieving time around these things as they happen, then do as your thread title suggests. You will get through this.

Far more concerning is the symptoms. I'm waiting with you on the results and am praying you are both negative. xoxoxo you know where to find me if you need to talk. ever. xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver