Steve_'s LRT phase 2

[JosephS]

May I ask a question? What is the real reason you are giving this “ultimatum”? Are you truly giving it for the reasons you’ve listed? Because I don’t see how after everything you have endured in the past how anyone including yourself could say you didn’t give it your best shot? You’ve done more to keep this family together than what anyone could expect and what is actually fair to you. Are you hoping if you can force her to make a decision quick that she won’t gain more feelings for the OM and will “pick you”? Are you hoping that if that if she sees you “mean business” this time she’ll be shocked into realizing she may lose and you come back? Also, and I could be wrong, but i do see this as a form of you attempting to control her. I do wish you luck. I just don’t see how this is going to turn out in the way you expect. I don’t think she’s going to do anything you want or need. I just hope you’re strong enough to handle it when she doesn’t make a decision. She may say fine I pick so and so. But I guarantee within a week or two she’ll be back to attempting to manipulate the situation. Still having an affair...and still stringing you along. Time will tell.

I do think you need to focus squarely on yourself and your children. And until you can do that and stop worrying about her and what she’s doing, thinking or feeling, you are really stunting your ability to move forward.