Your point #7 is precisely why I needed to do this.
She cannot continue thinking she can pick me up at the drop of a hat. All I have done is give her that impression. When I go dark she digs up reasons to use my kids against me to do this and that because she wants to continue to manipulate me. You don’t understand it but she has done /said multiple things to leave the door open for herself and has lined up the replacement man. All I am trying to do is shut that door so that I can actually start DBing. She will chose him I know it. But at least after that she has to fess up to it and I can begin to DB instead of sit in perpetual limbo. I had to realize I’m not strong enough to hold myself accountable to detach without her making a choice and not playing me. Monday is the day this crap ends and I can GAL and DB. Letting this happen without standing my ground has been fruitless for my own moving on. This isn’t about her, it’s about me. I’m sure that makes no sense to you all and I’m sure you will tell me that ultimatums don’t work. Yeah it won’t work for her. But it will for me. I have to stand up to her at some point and draw my line and stop playing the “I’m not so sure game” that’s all I’m doing here.
My wife’s biggest fear is not being in control. That’s why she is uncomfortable with OM and keeping me here. I have to take that control away. Then she has nothing but her mess that she chose when I gave her a chance. Then she can never say it’s on me. That is all I want. To be free from the games.
Last edited by Steve_; 11/20/2006:17 PM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
