Steve_'s LRT phase 2

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I stopped saying anything to her. It’s been 3 days. She reached out, told me she missed me, told me she wasn’t sure if this is what she wanted.

Steve, I am sorry you are dealing with this, it truly [censored]. You seem to have the worst of it, you don't deserve it, but it is what it is.

I'm no DB expert but I do know that you are supposed to keep doing what works. And it seemed like no contact was working for you, and seemingly her to some extent (whilst acknowledging the above quote is garbage by her anyway). But who knows, maybe another 6 months of your best effort at no contact may have genuinely brought about remorse and change in this woman. But instead you took the easy option of giving an ultimatum that no one thinks you will keep if it came down to it.

My advice, which as I said probably isn't worth much given where I am, but I would take back the offer, say it was a mistake and then go back to being dark. This offer will just eat you up for the next 3 days, jeopardising whatever progress you have made so far. Waiting 3 days for this person to decide the fate of your marriage is not self-respect.