Steve_'s LRT phase 2

[Steve_]

The issue isn’t that I don’t see what she is. The issue is that I haven’t been able to until now. She has played the “I’m not sure” “I haven’t moved all my stuff” “the kids stuff is still there” and I played the “well figure this out” and blame myself for all of it. Neither one of us was ready to accept there is no turning back. This is why she bread crumbs me until she is totally comfortable and this is why I continue to allow myself to be played. That is why I’m doing this. It has to end. The moment she left she said “we can get remarried” she has had it in her mind this isn’t final. I know it makes no sense. But I have to do this for our lives to change. This limbo must end. I know her. In her mind she still has me and that has to stop. She has to say it to feel it. Believe me I know her. She has never said it and meant it. Once I found out about OM it’s been nothing but “I don’t know” and “I miss you.” I cannot move on with that. I need this. Stupid? Maybe, unhealthy? Maybe.. but I know my W and she has to make the choice now that her secret is unraveled. That is what it will take for us to move on. She has never been able to do that. It is neccesary. And painful but I’m ready.