I can add that I was recommended here to send a heads up that I'm finalizing the divorce a few months ago. I signed the letter, put it in the mailbox and sent her a short message that she'll be receiving a confirmation soon. There was no R talk in my situation. She sent a sad emoji when she received the confirmation but that's it.
Ben, I am on record in a lot of other people's sitch's saying that this is unnecessary. They will get the heads up when the get served or the paper work back. So many LBHs suffer from NGS and breaking that cycle is hard.
Just for the record if you’re not looking for a reaction it is not NGS. Also it’s a good way to show that you are detached and moving on.
