What would you do if you had all the time and money in the world? How would you live if you knew you had only five to 10 years left? And what would you most regret if you died tomorrow?"
Just realized that this also applies to DBers in the midst of their spouse's MLC. I've often noticed that women who are financially self sufficient often seem to have an easier time of it letting go of their spouses and moving on; the more financially dependent one is, the harder time they have with it. And in order to separate out those two things (the relationship from the financial fears) it is probably useful to use this as an exercise. What would they do about their relationship if they had all the time and money in the world? What would they do if they knew they only had 5-10 years left to live? (Would they spend three years of that waiting on a WAS to possibly come to their sense - or not?) .
Hence the advice I often give to those in that situation to just get out and LIVE. Their spouse may come back or may not. But life is precious and the WAS shouldn't take up too much of their life's energy. I know I'm preaching to the choir here, this is really advice for the people on the MLC forum here.
