Originally Posted by BenB
Thank you Steve,

I agree with a lot you say but her reaching out gives me zero hope that she wants to R, nor am I keeping my ear to the ground hoping she will come back.

If at any point it would become too much, I would absolutely tell her she needs to stop contacting me. But honestly, I doubt I will hear much from her ever again. In the past 2 months she has reached out twice. And those are for her own selfish reasons I'm sure.

Perhaps I missed her more than a year ago when she moved out but even then it had more to do with me living on my own again for the first time in a decade. I do, however, miss the life we had but the person she was then is gone as of almost 2 years now. That person isn't coming back.

Being without her isn't something I struggle with. That is part of the reason I don't see any point posting much here anymore. I've gotten as far as I can when it comes to the situation with XW. My self improvement continues forever but I have gotten all the help I can get from you guys.

I will post if there are any updates regarding XW but that is mostly so others can learn how WWs can behave, even years after BD.





I am glad to hear all of this! What I went through for so long I wouldn't wish on anyone....including my worst enemy.

Onward and upward, Ben!


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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018