You're right. I didn't think this would lead to casual sex... I will admit I was wrong on that part. Frankly, I think its a good thing. Its not revenge sex. I'm not doing it because my H had OW. I'm doing as a means to continue to break ties to my H... my loyalty is something he will regret losing one day. I've been employed at the same place for 30yr... good times/bad times... I'm a loyal person. I stayed at this job because I knew when it was good how good it could be but there were years where it was a total shitshow. I approached my M the same way. I think this helped me close the door which is what everyone... esp STEVE85 has been wanting me to do.
I'm looking to do ME for awhile.
I just can't help but think this is another case of you being told that something isn't the best idea given where you are emotionally, and you ignoring all the advice and doing it anyway and then coming back here and explaining and justifying your behavior as something good and healthy. Please listen KC, casual sex is not the answer to your problems! It is not you "breaking ties" with your H!!! It's masking underlying pain with a temporary dopamine rush. That dopamine rush will wear off at some point and guess what will still be there, all that underlying pain. Like so many of us keep saying, you've got to deal with that pain FIRST, THEN pursue a new relationship.
