As for things getting back to my H - trust me. There isn't any way. We know no one who knows us both - period. I know its a freak unique thing but we are living completely separate lives with no interconnection.
Originally Posted by KitCat-today
By this AM the truth came out... the timeshare sent my vaca itineraries to him rather than me as he is the listed primary owner...
A month ago you insisted this wouldn't lead to casual sex and your husband wouldn't find out, lol!
These things follow predictable patterns. I don't have any moral qualms about your choices. I'm glad you're having a good time. Do consider the next step is usually replacing your co-dependence on your ex-husband with a co-dependence on the first guy/gal with a bit of chemistry. The more you can stand on your own feet before seeking a partner, the more likely you are to find and choose a good one for your life.
Okay - I will admit that we lead completely separate lives in 2 different towns. We have NO mutual friends. We have no shared children and our children are out of the house.
It was a complete freak thing that my vaca/travel plans were sent to him rather than me because I made sure it was my address and we co-own the timeshare. So he knows I'm traveling and to where/when but it does not list who I'm traveling with... even if it did its just S19.
H will not find out I'm out with new people - we live an hour apart.
You're right. I didn't think this would lead to casual sex... I will admit I was wrong on that part. Frankly, I think its a good thing. Its not revenge sex. I'm not doing it because my H had OW. I'm doing as a means to continue to break ties to my H... my loyalty is something he will regret losing one day. I've been employed at the same place for 30yr... good times/bad times... I'm a loyal person. I stayed at this job because I knew when it was good how good it could be but there were years where it was a total shitshow. I approached my M the same way. I think this helped me close the door which is what everyone... esp STEVE85 has been wanting me to do.
