I know at times it feels like you are waiting for H. Remember you are standing for you. For your beliefs, your values, your vows, and so on.
Your daughter sees H’s behaviour as well. And she doesn’t want to see you hurting. It is nice to see that she thinks it’s possible. The slim-ness of projected probability is really a guess, only time will tell.
H’s coming out of this, being probably or not, changes little - your path is your path. You need to walk this road whether H is there or not, whether you are married or not. It really is for you. (((Hugs)))
The questions and doubts of standing are perfectly normal. Do you see how your feelings have altered your perception? How being sad has coloured things? Again, perfectly normal.
Feeling are fleeting, when not reinforced. Acknowledge your feelings. Experience them. Let them wash over you.
That is the reason not to decided things based upon feelings (like our MLCers did). Those poor souls cannot handle their emotions and the constant depression they drag around. So of course they run.
Once your feelings subside, thoughts and beliefs do return. Follow those beliefs, the ones you’ve strengthened and created. The ones you want. Your feelings will follow as well - once you accept. Acceptance is emotional understanding. It takes time to get there. And a good deal of patience.
Stand for you.
It’s ok to hope.
(((PLC)))
Have a good day my friend.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
