I've been busy meeting new people - but yesterday got stood up for the 3rd time when meeting up for drinks. What the heck. This person was older. Widowed. We chatted some and decided it would be fun to chat in person over drinks. FUN. Then never showed... I had texted to say "hey I'm here and at the bar". NOTHING.
Yeah that's strange. When I was doing the whole OLD thing I had a few that ghosted me in texting, but I don't think I ever got stood up on in in-person meet. 3 times seems really unusual! But you've got to think that if they pull that crap, then it's not someone you want to waste your time with anyway.
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^^^^So all that is helping me think of my H less and less. I'm just focusing on me.
That's not really focusing on you though. That's focusing on a new love interest to replace the old one. Focusing on you would be setting aside the dating for now and doing some soul-searching, sorting out what it is you want in life and healing the wounds from the loss of your M. And in my opinion that step is a must before you can engage in a healthy new romantic relationship. I mean you are an adult and it's your decision, but I would hate to see you get hurt all over again, which can easily happen if you're hasty.
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I think I'm falling for one of the guys I met. I by admission do not have the best communication. Extreme introvert. He talks a lot... a lot... I feel I have been talking. Often times I feel I talk to much when imbibing... but he still feels I'm extremely quiet. [face palm]. While he talks a lot he isn't the best communicator either.
Well, communication is the cornerstone of a great relationship, so this is an area you should definitely work on.
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I think he likes me??? IDK. Thinking this may just end up being a hook up thing... He doesn't really bring up being exclusive, etc. He certainly could be dating others and I've mentioned that I'm just getting out there in life... and still meeting people as I should be. No one should be exclusive this early in the game.
So you got intimate with him, but you are both terrible at communication, you don't even know if he likes you, you don't know if you're exclusive. I think you're setting yourself up to be hurt. I don't care whether you have sex with someone else, I'm not someone who views sex as a sacred act. However, I really do get the sense through your posts that you are struggling with letting go of your H and I'm concerned that you're entering a new R to fill the void left by the old one, and you're rushing into it without knowing what you want, or what the other person wants. Just be very careful.
