So LH, this is probably a pointless question but and maybe you'll tap my knuckles with the ruler, but do you think my W (and OnlyBent's) are turning things on for their AP/OM only to have the same issue a year or two or three down the road? Or, is it something wrong with us personally and the OM will be better? I know I'm not supposed to detach and care about that but the question is in the back of my mind wondering if it's me or W.
So first I’d like to say my sex life never dropped off in my marriage in fact got better after Fifty Shades of Grey came out (thanks dude) lol. What I am saying is odds are the other man will not be better and she will be back in the same place thinking something is missing in her life that is preventing her from being happy. Is it possible she finds Mr. wonderful that fills her physically, emotionally and sexually. Sure. But most men are clueless when it comes to making women happy.Heck most women don’t even know what makes them happy. How many times have you heard a girl say “I just want a nice guy” then they get a nice guy and dump him and say “he was too nice”. WTF does that even mean? Here is what I think. In every long term relationship at some point one is gonna want out. Some go through with it. Some don’t. You married someone who did. Was preventable? Maybe. Does it matter now? Nope. The real question is what did you learn from it?
