thanks slowly. I went into this telling ex I was going to give this 110% but I guess he doesn't want me. Its hard to tell if I have it in me to db anymore. I had such high hopes and since I was getting invited everywhere with him and d I figured we were working towards reconiling. Like they say never ASSume things. but I get the feeling now that I was just invited to go along as a kind of "nanny" , like when we go biking, ex is a avid biker and d and I the most we bike is 20 miles, where he does like 50 and tries to bet his old time. if d went with him, she would not be able to keep up, so thats why I am there. he can ride and not worry cause d is with mom. I just really let down. I will though have to see him tonight so I am going to tell him, nicely that he doesn't have to invite me to dinner or bike rides anymore. he can, if he wants me there for me and not to play nanny. I guess I will have to see how that goes.