[DnJ]

Hello scout

I enjoyed your post. I was particularly drawn towards the forgiveness - you got that well in hand by the way. Forgiveness feels so good, doesn’t it?

Is it vilification to shine a light on behaviour that is objectively repugnant according to the human code of morality?

I understand the repugnance of these behaviours. XW’s telling/flaunting us 30 minutes after the act of fully consummating her affair was one of her many notable moments that illustrated her lack of morals.

Is it vilification? Depends on why you’re shining the light. In your case, I believe you are seeking a clear picture and understanding of things. You shine the light to understand and empathize and forgive; the purpose is not to strengthen XH as the villain. Job well done, IMHO.

I do believe that a man who abandons a pregnant wife or new mother deserves harsh judgement...

What about just fair judgement? Harshness come from punishment.

Be patient. We will all be judged, eventual.

Personally, I leave the judging to a higher power. (Most of the time. ) No person is wise enough to see all ends. Judgements upon the morals, or lack of, becomes messy pretty quickly when doled out by us fallible beings.

Seek your clear view without judgement. A wonderful peaceful life awaits for those who find their way.

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