hey rottizlla: I'm kinda in the same boat only at least you have had some phsycial contact. He doesn't see me as a wife anymore. he told me that since the d he hasn't had sex with anyone but me--three years and I was like well here I am and ILU but he says he doesn't know. I told him sometimes I just want a hug, to me next to him and he looked at me like I was from another planet. I just don't know how to get to the next level.