There are times when you seek the kids input, other times they even get to vote, and other times they don’t. Christmas and the tree is one of the latter times. You decide and lead. Don’t have H over; the kids will accept it as normal, for it is.
Yes, authenticity does emerge. The first year is quite a bit of fake it till you make it. You’ve made it!
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
