A mutual friend of me and my W asked this weekend if I was interested to go out on a date with someone he and his wife know, but I told him I really just need to focus on the kids right now. Considering W is dating someone already while married and very shortly after moving out, having him around...etc. the last thing they need right now is daddy to add instability to their lives and not have their undivided attention. I am sad and lonely sometimes in the evenings after the kids go to bed, but I'm trying to make sure they're my #1 priority as well as trying to follow the advice of the board members to work on myself first and avoid a "broken attracts broken" situation.
LOVE IT! Great attitude. You have the rest of your life to date, no need to jump into it now. Especially considering that you are no place to really open up and be with someone new right now anyway. Some other LBSs should read you perspective on this and realize what you already are realizing!
And the mutual friend is typical. Thinking applying the band-aid of dating someone new to the severed limb that is the end of a MR is all too common these days. The people that do that are just setting themselves up for the same issues later down the line.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
