You have been given great advise so far. Sandi2, AnotherStander and Steve85 are very wise and give stellar advice.
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Most of us came hear because our S wanted out of the marriage. I am not seeing that here, though you were headed there if you didn't address this problem.
You are lucky. She is sharing with you how she FEELS. Embrace this. Listen to understand her. Read the validation thread until it burned into your head. AnotherStander is the Validation king.
Neither one of you know why she has lost her sexual attraction for you. And it is OK that neither of you know why. The good news is that you can change your behavior and the way you interact with her to build up sexual tension. Learn how to be attractive and seductive. Know the difference between these.
Things that work are counter-intuitive. You need to challenge everything you currently believe. Do not be locked into one way of thinking or behaving. This is not working for you right now.
I am in charge of the sex and romance department in my relationship. If the sex is decreasing, it means I am not being seductive or romantic with my lady. I am becoming less attractive. It is my behavior that I need to reflect on and change. I actually pull back my sexual advances and wait for her to get turned on by my behavior. These are learned skills that work. They go against my natural instinct. I pull back when I want to pursue.
Right now, put all of your sexual needs on the back burner. Repeat this to yourself "Nothing turns a woman off more than a needy man."
Do not be boring. She needs excitement in her life. Be that.
I wish you well and look forward to helping you through this chapter of your life.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
