That last paragraph from AS is all you need rn.
I would not initiate any sex till you have had at least om therapy session.
Work on yourself and everything surrounding sex.

Also did you look into No more mr nice guy??

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021