Really good points...all of you. Devvo...I laughed outloud at your comment about one being so open minded their brains fall out...lol. Yeah...TDH’s opinion on a couple of things are definitely strange given everything else I know about him. I think they would be deal breakers if he expected me to believe what he believes or ridiculed me for believing what I believe. He doesn’t at all. I’m the one that has more of an issue. TBH...prior to the US election four years ago and the craziness that followed, I didn’t tend to talk about this stuff with people. I could not have told you which of my friends had which political views because it rarely, if ever, came up. But...that’s not the case anymore. I ran into a good friend of mine (pool player) who I have known for over 20 years. I have nothing but good things to say about him as a person. But...he stopped me and my sister in the grocery store a couple months ago to tell us that heard that Dr. Fauci, American infectious disease expert, CREATED Corona virus with the drug companies to make money and he believes it. HUH?!? I thought he was joking at first. Apparently not. Did not go down that rabbit hole with him. Pretty pointless, I think.
So...topic change...just had a text from XH asking if I had a pair of jeans for S12 who has been refusing to wear anything but sweat pants for the past year. I told him I had one pair and he texted me that they were doing a photo shoot this weekend. UGH. A “family” photo with OW. I didn’t ask why he wanted the jeans so he had no reason to tell me. I’m sure he couldn’t wait to. The guy is missing a sensitivity chip big time. Not sure why it’s bothering me. I think probably because we never got around to getting a family photo done...always too many other things to do. I’m sad about that. Not for me...cause even if we had, they would be in storage somewhere...but more for my kids. They don’t have a photo of them and their parents...at least not a professional one. And they won’t ever have one. I hope when the photo shoot this weekend doesn’t remind them of that.
Speaking of my kids...the last time they were with me, D12 wanted to talk to me about her dad. She was remembering the timing of when she had met OW and put it together that her dad had been cheating on me. I could see her mind really working to make sense of it. I told her that not everyone has the same values but that I hoped if she ever got married and decided she didn’t want to be married anymore, she would have enough respect for her spouse and her family to end it before she started shopping around for a replacement. She said she definitely would. Was thinking back to the conflict she had had with her dad last week. We had chalked it up to teenage hormones but I can’t help but wonder if some of the “rudeness” that XH was mad about last week had something to do with that revelation.
Divorce...the gift that just keeps on giving.... (((HUGS))) to all.
