kml-- I see your point. Truly, I do. I can do Christmas another time and it will be okay. I can celebrate in an adult way and it will be okay. I can create new traditions and it will be okay. It's just a calendar date, I agree. But Christmas morning is most special the first five or ten years of a child's life. It's different (still hard, of course, but different) with adult kids. If I absolutely have to compromise, I will. But not yet. I've given myself permission to be selfish on this one issue. What I can and will offer as the next step in negotiation is to revisit the issue when the entire parenting plan is reviewed in two years.
ETA: Gerda-- that'll be my compromise. I love the idea of hosting an orphan's Christmas or volunteering somewhere on the day.
