H: Do I have XX credit card? H: I don't remember opening up this card
UGH ---- business item??? Our CC's are separate but all our other accts are still joint though we are respectful about "his/her" accts.
M: You did 9yr ago. H: Do you have the card M: Cancelled 2yr ago H: Ok, I just wondered how they got my new address.
WAIT, WHAT??? You have received CC stuff in the mail and you are texting me??? How about calling the CC company??? This is not a business item... face palming myself. And, exactly how is it that I would know or care how they got your address???
KC, as you continue to go down the road of S and possibly D that your H has forced upon you, you are going to have a few convos like this. It's not at all unusual. I think you responded perfectly, your responses were business-like and to the point with no fluff or feelings added. My question is why did this very simple and straightforward interaction send you spinning? I know you're going to say "oh it didn't, I was really perfectly fine" but that "WAIT, WHAT??? paragraph very clearly shows that you were spinning. This type of interaction is really nothing at all and doesn't warrant being posted and talked about, you should be able to have a discussion like this with ZERO emotional response. I had hundreds of these convos with my XW as we went through S and D, it's just part of it. As long as you both stick to business then no problem, OK?
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H: What is your work schedule the next 3 weeks H: I want to bring in puppy
Face palming again and SWIPING left. OMG.
I assume you have an assistant that handles your appointments? If so then tell him to call the office as you don't set the appointments. I still think you should tell him to find another vet, but if you feel like you need to keep seeing the dog then your H should be treated no different than any other customer.
