Confused but committed, Part 2

[Mumin]

Kind is saying very valuable stuff here.

I dont know exactly where you are in your sitch but if there is a single thing I wish I would have understood better when looking back it is my own and my wife's view on sex and drives for sex. I believe it is the only ONE thing that might have changed the outcome of my R.
So if you have the capacity, read as much as you can about sex and desire.
Not saying it will change things, but it might help you understand more what is going on and help you validate her around what seems to be her cornerstone of all this.

Also, if you havnt read or listen to "love must be tough". Sounds like it would suit you.