I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 24

[JosephS]

Hi KC
I’ve been ghost following your sitch because we use to comment on each other’s quite a bit months ago.

I just wanted to reach out and ask you as gently as possible if you are truly ok. Your behavior as of late is a tad reckless. From the uptick in drinking, to the marijuana use, to the “making new friends in dating websites” it’s definitely eye opening.

You really seem to be spiraling and half way in denial about it.

You are and have been getting some A+ advice from multiple members on this board, and you seem to really pick and choose who and what you listen to that suits how you are feeling for the day.

I can’t stress this enough that you really should look inside yourself and ask yourself if you are ok.....truly ok.

No one here can make this go away. No one here can make this better. No one here can give you the silver bullet to make this pain and rejection you feel poof and disappear. It’s not going to happen.

But if you, and only you start taking the advice and listening to what you don’t wanna hear you’ll start to heal.

Everyone has told you, you need individual therapy. We know you had a bad experience with it, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t good people out there providing therapy that could really help you.

I hope you start to listen to everyone here. It’s not about saving your marriage, it’s about saving yourself, and the marriage hopefully gets saved in the process because you made real honest changes that last a lifetime that your spouse sees.

Just don’t be surprised when you make these changes that you realize your self worth and you know in your heart the cheating, lying, and manipulation you’ve endured isn’t ok. And it shows what kind of person your H is and you don’t want him back...ever.

I’ll continue to pray for you on the sidelines.