See it for what it is

[BL42]

Indy470,

Well I think my stand is over. I’ve done a lot of thinking. I can’t continue to live like this. I’m gonna be talking to WW tomorrow to set up a time to meet at the courthouse so we can file.

Indy,

I just wanted to say that regardless of what happens to your marriage, you are a good dude. You deserve so much better than the hand your W has dealt you.

I foresee a bright future ahead of you and I think you will meet a woman who cherishes you as much as you cherish her.

Keep on keepin' on...

Indy,

I know this is not the outcome you wanted but IMO it's the right move. You have to be true to your values. People who have physical affairs rarely change and typically only change when they hit rock bottom. The early years of marriage are suppose to be great times as your build your life together. If she is stepping out now she either feels she made the wrong choice or she has deep rooted issues.

Learn from this experience and move forward. You absolutely have a great life ahead of you.

^All this, plus...

I wouldn't for a second take away my kids, but children certainly complicate the post-BD relationship. You're fortunate in a way to not have that on-going attachment and need to collaborate for decades to come. Keep working on yourself and you'll find happiness without her.