curtis, not going to 2x4 you. You went your own way, which is fine, it is your sitch! A lot of 2x4s are because folks come here wanting to DB, wanting advice, then completely ignore the advice and do not DB. It frustrates those that are providing guidance. You not posting on the forum for so long to me said your decision was to try to save your marriage in your own manner rather than DBing. As I said above, that is your right.

My prayer for you is that I sincerely hope you can look back with minimal regrets and move on. Your W feels stuck because of the kids. Likely she isn't completely NC with the OM. Or if she is there will be an OM4 shortly. Your sitch is a ticking timebomb to the point where she just no longer cares about how it affects the kids and she pulls the trigger on separation and D. It is a very common path though some WASs take it very slowly.

Hang in there curtis. You clearly are not happy with the way things are, but likely this woman is never going to give you more than she currently is. You need to brace yourself for the next shoe to drop.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018