So Mr B covered most of it but I saw you referenced me in thread and wanted to clarify. When I said it will take years I meant years of separation and typically D. I could go on and on and you can read a million relationship books but the bottom line is it comes down to one word "respect". Again posted to exhaustion on this website but typically ignored. No respect = no knooky for you.
So two years later you really only have 2 choices. Divorce and move on or come to an agreement where you are together for the kids so there are no expectations continue in separate rooms. Right now because of COVID you have received a pardon from the governor on your stay of execution. If/once COVID ends she will be on tne hunt again for your replacement and there are going to be plenty of low life OMs available.