Just wanted to update. It feels like we are going in a positive direction, but I'm not sure. As previously mentioned, when DH called about the school list, I nicely explained that it felt a little controlling, but that I didn't want to jump to assumptions. This was a 180 for me, as I usually either remain quiet and get withdrawn and snippy or (at the beginning of the separation) lash out and say something snarky. DH apologized and said he was working on being less overbearing in therapy. It was a brief, positive discussion about one of the issues (me being ditzy, him being critical) that we have had in both the mr and as co-parents. I finished the discussion by genuinely complimenting him and he complimented me. He then called back and asked to ride with me and eldest this morning to drop eldest off at school.
After we dropped the eldest off at school, DH overheard me saying to our youngest child that I was taking him out for a special breakfast. DH asked to join. This afternoon, when he came to pick up youngest today, he lingered, talked a bunch, and asked to check the mouse traps in my house (I recently caught a couple of mice, which terrifies me). I'm not sure if I'm getting "friend zoned" or what, but it's nice that we are more amicable. I am sure not to initiate any more invitations, not to text except for emergencies, and to always end calls/communications first. I do not want to get my hopes up, but at least we are no longer clawing each others eyes out and we were able to communicate effectively.
