A few days ago, one of my children wanted to show H a picture on my phone. I was out of the room for a few minutes and when I came back, H was on my phone alone. I have nothing to hide, so it didn't really bother me much. But when I went to text some overseas friends in WhatsApp, I noticed that he had checked out my call log. (WhatsApp is his tool of choice for communicating secretly with EA, the only American person he uses this app with, although we both use it to communicate with family and friends abroad).
A few days later, I had a break from homeschooling and spent the day in a nearby city to get some long-awaited errands done (my first weekday to do so in 8 weeks). H had the kids, but when I got home he was visibly upset with me and based upon what he said, it was clear that he was questioning what I was *really* up to on my day away.
He questions whether or not I really loved him, based upon a healing exercise I did in the spring where I wrote down a list of where I wanted us to be in two years' time. (He snuck into my journal and read it without my knowledge). He believes I was writing that list for some future partner.
Is all of this common behavior? I honestly have zero interest in whom he is talking to or what he is up to right now. Why does he care?
