I read love languages, and I think he is acts of service. I make sure to thank him. Over the weekend, D wanted to get dinner, and for the first time in a while, I asked if he would want anything and he did, and he thanked me after we got the food. (He did not eat with us)
When I told him to be careful, he was walking out of the room and said either , “ok” or “I will”. I almost told him I loved him. That is how “normal” the convo was, I almost slipped into an old pattern.
I spoke to my IC yesterday and she continued the advice i have been given here. “Detach” be aloof.
We all agree he is that scared squirrel, so I am not trying to spook him.
