Added that even tho we are sure to D I still think about reconciling in the far distant future.
Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
My only caution is not le the "I still think about reconciling in the far distant future" inform your DBing decisions. Lots of debate on here about hope, should I have any, do I need to lose all hope. I think LBSs put way too much emphasis on it. Especially since even if there is hope it could be months and years (to quote LH) before it ever becomes a possibility. And lots of WASs like to keep their LBSs hanging on so eventually it a lot sitches it is the LBS that gives up and pulls the plug on future reconciliation.
I've told the story about my ex-GF, that deep down could never really see me as more than a friend (with benefits). She tried to keep me hanging on even into our marriages. But I decided after an EA her and I had with her 10 years ago (that I've admitted to on this forum) that I was pulling the plug. I am now to the point with her that even if her husband and my wife were out of the picture, I would not be open to a love relationship with her ever again!. I believe that LBSs eventually get to that place with their WAS. AS, LH and others have pointed this out to many LBSs.
So have your hope, but DB as if there is none.
Last edited by Steve85; 11/04/2002:48 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
