Gerda, I am so sorry you are dealing with such a challenging judge! It must be so hard when you feel that you are not only fighting H, but also feeling like you have to defend yourself from the judge.
I know that there are good reasons that you are representing yourself, but this interaction concerns me and I am wondering if maybe you would consider getting some representation? There might be grounds to ask for a new judge, or it could be that having someone between you and the judge helps to better protect you and your interests? At the very least, representation could help you with supportive, friendly reminders of the rules of the game and also help keep H's attorney in line with the rules without needing the judge to be in the middle constantly.
Concluding a hearing due to endless screaming doesn't seem like very courtly decorum to me. Who is screaming and how can that be stopped?
I don't want to see you suffer in the long run due to courtroom bias, a bad judge or because H has representation and you do not. You have so much at stake, right now is not the time to muscle it out on your own if you can help it.
