* Possible 2-on-2 meeting in person (each of us with our attorney) to negotiate the divorce details -- this is apparently pretty common
Hi Tom,
A 2-on-2 meeting sounds stressful. I'd have no interest sitting in a room with my ex for hours negotiating, and if I did, 1 attorney should be plenty to clarify what's reasonable and what's not.
Interesting perspective. At the time, my attorney said this was the most cost-effective way to go if we couldn't work it out together and then use mediation.
I said no to it many months ago, solely because of boundaries (I wasn't using the term at the time). It was only a few weeks past my STBXW and her attorney's gambit. I told my attorney to tell them no because I didn't trust my ex's attorney, that he probably had some strategy to try to get me angry or upset in living color as a way to gain advantage. The upset part was true; I knew that merely seeing her would make me weep. At that time she totally had the upper hand.
