Dnj, in answer to your question, do I see this as a step forward?
I can say it is a better step than what he has been doing. This weekend he volunteered what he was doing, thanked for dinner and on Sunday while he was out, D and i went ahead and ate (no waiting for him, ever) he came home and asked what we got for dinner.
He went to take care of D's smog and he called ME to come and pick him up as there were repairs that needed to be done and it was going to take a while. I didn't even think about it, but D could have used my car and picked him up. He could have called her. Interestingly, when i picked him up, his vibe was very uncomfortable to be in the car with me. LOL. I just drove home and went inside.
He has continued to speak to me, sparingly, but he does. Yesterday, he was home when I came home for lunch. He came in and told me he was going to be working overnight. (not unusual) I just responded ok and i slipped and told him to be careful. I tend to believe him, as he has not told me anything lately and I do not ask.
Now, could he be lying? Of course. But I do feel detached at least what I think is detached and I am not changing things for him, asking him anything or doing anything for him without some discussion.
Now could he be peeking out of the tunnel? I think he could be. I also agree, he is a scared squirrel. One wrong move and back into the tunnel he goes. This is where I am detaching.
I am home today working. Let's see if I get any baked goods. (haha)
