I don't know if this helps or not, but this is how I would handle these..
Originally Posted by Rustymom
It's hard when he went from never attending a game to all of a sudden insisting on being at all the games despite the league's covid policy of only one parent per game.
Do the games fall on his days or your days? That's who decides. "Sunday is my day. I don't want to miss many games. I'd be willing to give up my seat for 1 in 4 games. Please remember that when Little Johnny has an activity on your days. ;)" OR "I know Sunday is your day, but it'd mean a ton to me if I could attend some games, and a ton to Little Johnny to see both parents cheering him on. May I attend every 4th game?"
Originally Posted by Rusymom
I'm sending the eldest back to in person tomorrow and he wants to call and discuss the school supply list with me.It's a supply list!
This year I told her "Little Johnny has all his supplies in his backpack, so we don't have to buy two sets of supplies. Please remind him to pack everything up when he returns!" Like you said--it's just a supply list. My reply assures them everything is in place and informs them of the logistics necessary.
If they really wanted to be involved, I might offer--"I plan to buy everything this weekend. If you want to buy the top 5, or bottom 5 items, let me know before then!" If she responded with anything but a clear "I'm buying x, y, z" I'd just buy everything as per the initial plan and let them know.
Originally Posted by RustyMom
I think I may have to nicely draw boundaries around the monitoring and correcting of me.
Absolutely. I parent my way on my time. It's one of the joys of being divorced.
