Through the World Barefooted -- Gerda's LBS Guide

[Rita]

Well, first I wrote to court reporter, copying court and H's L, asking for a copy of the transcript.

Then a few hours later H's L wrote a staggering letter to the court in which he blamed me for everything, but esp not getting the appraisal, and threatened to file a motion to preclude all the "bogus" debts from trial and said that since I never paid H any of his "support" (which is what he always calls the monthly ED advances and I always have to correct it, he is trying to lay the groundwork for his claim for alimony at trial!!!) that H would need to move back to our city and into one of the rental units. And a whole bunch of other bullying threats. And asked that the judge would schedule oral arguments for all the open motions (there are like 5, including 3 for contempt against me from me and one for contempt against him from me, which is really just asking her to make him follow the order).

It has been a long while since I shared any of the goings on specifically, and it's interesting to see your and Scout's astonishment because this kind of thing is what I have been living through not here and there but almost weekly. Endless hearings like this. They almost always end with the court attorney shutting it down because of the pointless screaming. But the problem with court against a narcissist/MLCer is that no matter how calm and clear you are, the judge thinks you are at least half the problem. My children are never mentioned by anyone but me. And I have been particularly hard hit because my judge is so bad. She has been this lazy from day one but I think now she is panicking because she sees I am recording everything.

I filed a complaint with the Bar against H's lawyer for so much lying and fake documents and for physically threatening me (not sure if I wrote about that one last year) but they wrote back that if I am in the middle of the case, I have to complain to the judge, not the Bar. So that ain't going to happen. When I filed a complaint with the state against his broker, I didn't hear from that broker anymore. (A complaint to the BBB didn't do the trick but I am thinking of doing that anyway with H's L, or as a review on yelp.) I wish I could tell you his name, it's very Dickensianly accurate.

Speaking of which, DnJ, when was the last time you read Bleak House? There is an amazing version of it on the net, the reader is so amazing that I have listened to it three times in the last ten years. Maybe it's time to do it again, good way to get through housework.

I am a little freaked out and scared by H's L writing that letter but I am just going to correct his lies very succinctly so it's on record and try to keep waiting this out. I offered H a good downpayment (50K) now, and the rest in a year if rents return, or another partial payment then, with the rest when D goes to high school. She is able to walk to school now. But they said no. They are obsessed with lump sum.

I sure wish it was over though.