New here-heartbroken and confused

[Ready2Change]

She also really encouraged spending fun family time together. This board is pretty scared of being friend-zoned. If I were you, I'd take all of the advice into account and then decide what makes the most sense for you in your particular situation and what feels right to you.

I am a firm believer in being friendly as long as it is welcomed. But being friendly should be part of your core being, not just tactical with the spouse. There are also times when one should definitely not be friendly. Getting all your core values in alignment with your words, behavior, body language etc. is part of the growth that needs to happen. Then you just know when to be friendly or not and act appropriately.