Yeah I hear you. I definitely feel like I'm letting him have his cake and eat it too with regard to money he is legally obligated to pay me. He pays child support and alimony, but he technically owes me thousands for his percentage of child care. I've not gone after it because I want him to know that I didn't marry him for money and I wanted to establish goodwill between us. But, honestly, he's been pretty unbending and merciless to me throughout this process. I offered several alternatives to 50/50 that would have given him just as much time if not more with the kids and he wouldn't take it. When I told him I wanted a separation, he insisted that if it wasn't going to be an in home separation that I was the one to leave the house despite the fact that my family had gifted us the 20% down payment for the house. And now I'm letting him get away with paying me thousands less than he owes.
I feel like I'm trying to be generous and nice and he isn't meeting me half way. But then I feel like I was the one to leave so I should show good will. It's all very confusing and conflicting
