My divorce busters coach felt strongly that it would be a positive thing if DH and I could spend time together as a family. She stressed that I left and filed for divorce and things had gotten so acrimonious between us, that positive, healthy family time would be a good thing. I am really trying to follow her advice.
My situation is a bit complicated because the lines between WAS and LBS are blurred here. DH and I have switched roles. I strongly agree that begging and pleading and relationship talks are not the way to handle this, at all. He needs to initiate all of that. But I think I may have to extend a friendly olive branch and show him that we can create happy memories without me acting like an angry raving lunatic (and I did act like an angry, raving lunatic for a while there. It wasn't justified, but it also wasn't completely without reason.)
Well I will never disagree with a DB coach (assuming it is one of MWD's coaches). But I would bring up with the coach the idea that you may end up "friended". Lots of WASs, and I'd guess even if they started out as the LBS, like to keep their ex around as a "friend". You have to decide if you are okay with just being his friend or not because they may be all he wants.
Last edited by Steve85; 11/02/2001:45 PM.
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