To be clear, OM came into the picture many months after the D decision. I know this for a fact. People move on and I accept that -- like I said, I've dated a little bit as well.
My W is still in the marital home and by external appearances would seem very well off. OM does odd jobs and is D'ed with no kids. 2+2 and it's obvious what's going on. That's for those two to work out. But the whole "playing family" bit without acknowledging it is happening is really frustrating. It's not something I would do at this point to my kids.
Because we are still working through negotiating the legal issues, my W and I almost barely communicate. Just in the past month alone she has done several crazy things -- alleging I underpaid support (not true), threatening to withhold the kids one weekend, delaying signing documents. She has very aggressive (and borderline unethical) representation. I have evidence that she has badmouthed me to other parents at the school my kids attend. It goes on and on and I've learned to deal with it. What frustrates me is the impact it has on our kids. It's so pointless and unnecessary.
One thing I am very proud of is that I have kept my kids out of it as best as I can. When my kids mention OM I don't ask further questions. I leave them out of it.
