Congrats on the company expansion!! That is awesome. I think having something major and positive to dive into, especially once she moves out, will be a good thing.
In/re not feeling hot... I second what Yail and WF are saying. This isn't about you. it is about her. Remember maybe a year ago (oh god, have we been doing this for so long??) you went on a fun weekend excursion with your BF and out to bars and got hit on like crazy? Mmmmhmmm? Put yourself back in that mental state, remember how it felt, remember that just because your W is a flawed and confused person, it doesn't mean a single thing about YOU.
I'm hoping that she moves out soon... but I also remember that she was living separately from you for a long time and still trampling over all your boundaries, letting herself into your house, still spending affectionate time with you. So while I totally understand that you are picking where you can channel your strength and energy, and maybe that isn't into pushing her away when she comes into the MBR in the morning right now, do you have a plan for what your boundaries will be and how you'll enforce them once she moves out?
I share WF's concerns about your W continuing to trample on your boundaries and doing everything she can to keep you stuck. Moving out didn't stop her last time. I worry that divorce won't either. And with you living in her childhood home... I worry she'll be stopping by to grab one last thing for a long, long time. You will probably need to be the one to draw those lines and enforce them, and it is going to be HARD. Have you put any thought into this part?
(((KG)))
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
