Something I use in my sitch - is to evaluate whether or not what's happened has actually changed anything.
I know the last thing you want to hear is that these texts don't matter but, they don't, at all.
You already knew your husband was withdrawn, you knew he was not leaning toward recon, you knew he had OW, you knew everything that was going on and guess what, you were doing better.
So after these texts what has changed? Honestly nothing. Everything is the exact same as it was before these texts. Not better but not worse either.
It changes nothing and I mean this in a good way.
I hope this makes sense and helps you a bit.
Also remember, just because he says something doesn't make it absolute. Maybe you are playful, fun, a great partner and someone willing to support all his adventures and an amazing person.
