I don't know. Right now I'm just focusing on fixing a lot of the things that he criticized that I've determined he was right about. I do need help with my organization and adhd. I need to get my career back on track. I need to be more stable and less emotional. I do need to let go of resentment towards mil (whether or not I send the letter, whether or not we reconcile, etc) because resentment is poison. But I need to do these things for me. In other words, I'm evaluating my part and working on it, but trying to do so in an authentic attempt at self improvement. I have decided to put off dating other people until I have gotten my ducks in a row on that front. If he comes to his senses during that time, then I will work with him on the marriage. If not, then I will start dating and find someone new. I did go on a few dates since the separation, but I'm just not ready for that right now.
