Yes I am trying to do what works but still detach. In the last few weeks I've started dropping off home cooked meals to DH and he loves this. He can't resist good food (pot roast, pot pie).
Okay, so how does this "work"? Isn't his mother taking care of him?
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My divorce busters coach suggested that I invite DH to events with me and the children. But I invite him, he accepts and then backs out. He is invited to Halloween and every day he brings it up and tells me he's still thinking about it. I can't figure out if he wants me to beg or what.
Don't beg! It sounds as if he is wanting to punish you for leaving him. Like, make you crawl back on your hands & knees.
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He KNOWS how incredibly sorry I am, he knows I'm working my tail off to change, etc.
Whoa, whoa, whoa...........what???? Where did this story just change out of nowhere? When did it turn on you doing the changing? I thought you left him b/c of how you were being treated!
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He just doesn't care. So the ball is entirely in his court and me initiating is pointless. How did others stop apologizing, stop groveling, stop making contact? It's so hard when you feel like you messed up.
How to stop apologizing, and stop groveling??? Okay, that's it. You are officially off the WAW list.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
